7 words you should immediately stop using to describe yourself

7 genaus you should immediately stop using to describe yourself7 words you should immediately stop using to describe yourselfWe all know the words we say to others matter. But sometimes we forget that the words we say to andabout ourselvesare equally important. We need to be careful about the way we describe who we are. If you wouldnt assign a word toa friendor other loved one, you probably shouldnt assign it to yourself, either. Keep scrolling for seven specific words that you should stop using to talk about Y-O-U.1. AloneIf youve just gone through a breakup with a significant other, have experienced a loss in your family, or are just feeling generally down in the dumps, it can be tempting to feel - and even say - that youre all alone. Remember, though, that if youre sharing these feelings with a friend or other confidante, youre far from lonely. If you feel lonely, stop thinking of yourself as alone and reach out for support. Perhaps it would help to reach out or let people in yo ur life know that you need something versus trying to figure it out alone, licensed psychologistSue Sextonsays. You arenotlagealoneFollow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and more2. StupidLicensed marriage and family therapistIbinye Osibodu-Onyalitells us that she hears this word all too often. If you say to yourself that you are stupid, you will trigger a negative feeling about yourself, as well as negative thoughts about yourself, Osibodu-Onyali says. Too many negative thoughts can lead to a drop in self-confidence or self-esteem. Give yourself a little credit. Allow the necessary room to make mistakes so that you can relieve the pressure you put on yourself and be a little more compassionate to yourself.3. LazyToo many of us call ourselves out when we cant rise early to exercise, take on one more task at home or at work, or just keep up with someone else, saysKaren Azeez, certified holistic health coach and author ofThe Kindfulness Solution. At this point, we should see if we just need more down time, sleep, motivation, or information instead of judging ourselves harshly. Dont conflate exhaustion or overwhelm with habitual laziness. Youre only lazy if you choose to be.4. Just/OnlyWhen asked what you do for a living or even for fun, dont hedge your answer with the word just or only. Youre not just a student or only an assistant or spending your weekend just hanging out. Own who you are and what you do. These qualifiers undermine your power and awesomeness, serve as an apology for something that requires one, and broadcast low self-esteem or fake humility, saysNikki Bruno, a power coach, speaker, and author.5. SorryWomen, in particular, are in the habit of making themselves apologetic way too often. Whilesaying that youre sorrymay seem harmless - maybe even polite - you probably say it more than necessary. Executive coach andDevelopment studentencorpsfounder Kate Giga x encourages you to be mindful that youre not saying sorry for things that arent yours to own. Consider replacing Im sorry with thank you. For instance, try saying, Thank you for your patience instead of Im so sorry Im late6. SensitiveBy labeling your thoughts and feelings as sensitive, youre not only judging yourself, but youre instantly negating your thoughts and feelings, therapist and life coachTess Brighamnotes. Theres nothing wrong with having emotions. Even if youre convinced that you have more feels than the average human, you dont owe it to anyone to justify your behavior. Instead, allow yourself to experience those emotions, so you can move past them when youre ready.7. HopelessNo matter how low youre feeling or how much you feel you need to grow or improve, we ask you to never, ever label yourself this way and the experts back us up. Reinforcing that youre growing and learning is a far more positive, motivating, and effective katechese than expecting mastery out of the ga te and beating yourself up over it, life and career coachSally Anne Carrollsays.This article originally appeared on Brit + Co.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people7 words you should immediately stop using to describe yourselfWe all know the words we say to others matter. But sometimes we forget that the words we say to andabout ourselvesare equally important. We need to be careful about the way we describe who we are. If you wouldnt assign a word toa friendor other loved one, you probably shouldnt assign it to yourself, either. Keep scrolling for seven specific words that you should stop using to talk about Y-O-U.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard cov ering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and more1. AloneIf youve just gone through a breakup with a significant other, have experienced a loss in your family, or are just feeling generally down in the dumps, it can be tempting to feel - and even say - that youre all alone. Remember, though, that if youre sharing these feelings with a friend or other confidante, youre far from lonely. If you feel lonely, stop thinking of yourself as alone and reach out for support. Perhaps it would help to reach out or let people in your life know that you need something versus trying to figure it out alone, licensed psychologistSue Sextonsays. You arenotalone2. StupidLicensed marriage and family therapistIbinye Osibodu-Onyalitells us that she hears this word all too often. If you say to yourself that you are stupid, you will trigger a negative feeling about yourself, as well as negative thoughts about yourself, Osibodu-Onyali says. Too many negative thoughts can lead to a dr op in self-confidence or self-esteem. Give yourself a little credit. Allow the necessary room to make mistakes so that you can relieve the pressure you put on yourself and be a little more compassionate to yourself.3. LazyToo many of us call ourselves out when we cant rise early to exercise, take on one more task at home or at work, or just keep up with someone else, saysKaren Azeez, certified holistic health coach and author ofThe Kindfulness Solution. At this point, we should see if we just need more down time, sleep, motivation, or information instead of judging ourselves harshly. Dont conflate exhaustion or overwhelm with habitual laziness. Youre only lazy if you choose to be.4. Just/OnlyWhen asked what you do for a living or even for fun, dont hedge your answer with the word just or only. Youre not just a student or only an assistant or spending your weekend just hanging out. Own who you are and what you do. These qualifiers undermine your power and awesomeness, serve as an apo logy for something that requires one, and broadcast low self-esteem or fake humility, saysNikki Bruno, a power coach, speaker, and author.5. SorryWomen, in particular, are in the habit of making themselves apologetic way too often. Whilesaying that youre sorrymay seem harmless - maybe even polite - you probably say it more than necessary. Executive coach andDevelopment Corpsfounder Kate Gigax encourages you to be mindful that youre not saying sorry for things that arent yours to own. Consider replacing Im sorry with thank you. For instance, try saying, Thank you for your patience instead of Im so sorry Im late6. SensitiveBy labeling your thoughts and feelings as sensitive, youre not only judging yourself, but youre instantly negating your thoughts and feelings, therapist and life coachTess Brighamnotes. Theres nothing wrong with having emotions. Even if youre convinced that you have more feels than the average human, you dont owe it to anyone to justify your behavior. Instead, all ow yourself to experience those emotions, so you can move past them when youre ready.7. HopelessNo matter how low youre feeling or how much you feel you need to grow or improve, we ask you to never, ever label yourself this way and the experts back us up. Reinforcing that youre growing and learning is a far more positive, motivating, and effective message than expecting mastery out of the gate and beating yourself up over it, life and career coachSally Anne Carrollsays.This article originally appeared on Brit + Co.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people